Sorry!

Sorry!

There’s this narrative about how healing happens inside of conscious partnership.

And from my lens, a necessary nuance is being missed.

What I hear over and again is people understanding that our greatest healing happens when we face our triggers in relationships.

To which I say yes AND -

The greatest healing I’ve experienced in my relationship has been from the mutual creation and feeling of safetiness during a tough conversation.

By doing our best to hold our inner sense of safety.

Doing our best to hold it for the other.

Doing our best not to further trigger each other.

THIS is where the healing happens.

We learn that it’s safe to move through hard times.

That it doesn’t mean the end of connection, but rather greater trust and resiliency, with no residue of resentment.

It allows for the repair you may have never received from your parents as a child.

The sheer power of being loved for all of you, without limitations is enough to shatter the illusion that we are separate.

As you move through a challenging moment in the NOW, with love and an open heart, you heal the version of you in the PAST who didn’t have the capacity to - or who was around others who didn’t have the capacity to do so.

You do not need to stay in a highly triggering relationship to heal.

The healing happens in the mutual holding of safety.

The way you move through a contraction, together, informs your next level of expansion, together.

When Jack and I can maintain love, respect and openness even in the toughest of disagreements, the depth and intimacy of our partnership expands ten fold.

Not because of the trigger, but because of the unconditional love we hold inside of it.

With love,

Diana