A Love Story

A Love Story...

When I first came to School of Love I had recently experienced a dating low. It’s a familiar story for many. We connected, the passion grew, anxiety followed, and a push/pull dynamic ensued. Just as quickly as our connection sparked, it burned out. My nervous system was shot and I felt shaken to my core. Tired and hopeless, I knew it was time to do something different.

During our initial meeting, Diana asked me what I wanted to get out of School of Love. Of course, a partner, but what else? That question alone hinted at the comprehensive nature of the School of Love. “An abundance and trust mindset,” I answered. Over the course of the next 6 months, my love story unfolded.

It goes like this:

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Once upon a time, there was a child named Stephi. She came into the world from a broken relationship, during a stressful period in her family’s life. She was loved and cared for, but within her was an internalized belief that she was unloveable. Stephi had an insatiable desire to be seen and chosen. She tried her best to capture the love that she yearned for; perfectionism, looks, and people pleasing..it never satisfied her hunger.

One day, a woman named Stephanie came back to visit little Stephi. She visited little Stephi in all her forms: newborn, toddler, and young child. They had previously spent time together, but their meetings were fleeting. It became clear that Stephi did not trust Stephanie. As Stephanie pushed through life, little Stephi grasped tighter, both battling for control.

And it was at this impasse that transformation occurred. Adult Stephanie saw little Stephi’s deep fear and desire to be loved. Both beings released control and spent time together. Stephanie saw, listened, and loved Stephi as no one ever could. In return, Stephi was able to relax and trust, allowing her to be a full-time kid filled with wonder and play.

They’re always together now. Driving through life, Stephanie is at the steering wheel with Stephi in the back seat. Love, listening, and trust are the bedrock of their relationship. Just like any child, Stephi can still feel fearful or sad at times. But when that happens, Stephanie immediately parks the car and holds her child self, soothing her and reminding her of her inherent loveability.

I love that child. A love so great I could shout it from the rooftops. School of Love brought us back together, and I am deeply grateful. And yes, my dating life up-leveled as well. I continue to connect with quality men along my adventure and have even found joy in the dating process! I believe that this shift is a direct reflection of my renewed connection to my inner child. In the end, School of Love helped me see that the love I desperately sought was always available within. I am love.

In love and worthiness,

Stephanie Overman (and little Stephi, too!)

Stephanie Overman is a Soul Coach whose work is rooted in mindfulness, somatics, and self- nurturing. She is a Certified Mind Rebel CoachTM, Registered Trauma-Informed Yoga Teacher, and Certified Meditation Teacher.

Instagram: @stephioverman

Website: https://www.stephioverman.com/