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A Powerful Client Experience — How Her Relationship is Now the Best it’s Ever Been

We’re doing things a little differently today. With the intention of mixing things up, and keeping our (as in mine and yours) relationship fresh, I’m sharing a success story of a client of mine, written in her words.   No editing, no filter. This is Emily’s story of how she went from being highly triggered […]

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It Can Be So Much Easier Than You’re Allowing It to Be

Without fail — when a woman realizes she needs/wants to connect more with her man, she starts by doing so in “the big ways”.   She tries to have deep conversations.   Make plans for an elaborate date.   Learn some new skill together.   I’m totally guilty as charged.   I mean at first […]

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The Fascinating Truth About Why You Create Problems in Your Relationships

She tries to run her household with a close and watchful eye because her inner child is afraid of being exposed.   Say what?   This was a fascinating discovery recently made in a client session.   She came to me because she knew something needed to change. If she couldn’t learn to relax and […]

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From Expectation to Appreciation – This Will Transform Your Relationship

How would your relationships be different if you made appreciation greater than criticism and expectation?   When I was dating Jack (my now husband and baby daddy), one thing that always stood out to him was how much I appreciated the little things that he would say or do. He called it positive reinforcement – […]

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The Sneaky Belief that’s Causing Major Damage in Your Love Life

I have yet to work with a woman who doesn’t have a deeply rooted belief (so deep, she often has NO idea that it’s there), that she is not worthy and not enough.   This belief can be sneaky; logically she knows she must be worthy, but she hasn’t quite embodied this on a visceral […]

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Be His Partner, Not His Boss

If you’re a woman with any kind of ambition (and something tells me that you are), you may find it very challenging not to use that same focused willpower on your man.   You want him… to be more ambitious clean up after himself do a better job managing his time join you in some […]

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He’s on His Journey, Too

Whenever a client comes to me frustrated about the man she’s with, there’s usually some part of her that’s hoping I’m going to tell her it’s all his fault.   Which I never, ever do.   Because I know that the change she’s looking for starts with her.   She has been trying to “lead” […]

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Why I Don’t Believe in Red Flags

I’m much more of a find-the-solution type of woman.   And red flags?   They have you looking for problems.    So rather than looking for red flags, know what you’re looking for in a partner and notice (rather than look for) which of those “requirements” are there.   And when you see that some […]

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A Woman Asked Me if She Should Make the First Move – Here’s My Reply

I recently had a woman ask me what I thought of her initiating with men she’s curious about.   She’s a Manifestor in Human Design (if you don’t know what I’m talking about, look it up – totally fascinating!) and so initiating is her inherent strategy. It’s worked well for making new friends, but it’s […]

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The Truest Moment of Love is in the Breakup

Have you ever felt closer to a partner in the final breakup conversation than at any other time in your relationship?    This is not uncommon, and I’ve definitely experienced it myself.   The reason is that we arrive at this moment with nothing left to lose. The relationship is ending anyway, so we may […]

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How to Heal Your Past in the Present – This WORKS!

Just when you thought you were done healing that old story, it happens again.   The guy ghosts you. You find yourself obsessing over someone you know doesn’t deserve you. Instead of saying how you feel, you hold it in out of fear of losing him.   And then you’re left dumbfounded, wondering how you’re […]

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Relationship Fix That Works – My Unpopular Opinion

What’s the biggest struggle you have in your relationship, whether past or present?   My guess is whatever it is, you’ve tried one of three strategies:   Ignore it and hope it goes away. Communicate about it with as much calmness as you can muster up. Fight about it, hoping your tears will motivate him […]

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Choosing Your Battles Has a Whole New Meaning

We’ve all heard the phrase “choose your battles wisely” when it comes to disagreements you might have with someone else.   But what about with yourself?   Yesterday I was on a call with a client who was describing how challenging it is to let things go when she gets triggered by her boyfriend.   […]

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Love and Anger: A stoic approach to relationship fights – Guest Post By Dr. Pat Owen

Anger, if not restrained, is frequently more hurtful to us than the injury that provokes it.  -Seneca   When’s the last time you got into an argument with your partner? It’s completely natural to get angry and want to yell and fight, but just because it’s natural doesn’t mean that it’s a good idea.    […]

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The Things You Never Learned From Your Mama or Grandma

Very few of us witnessed our mothers express their emotions in a healthy way.   What we observed instead is a woman who…   Suffered in silence Ignored her husband Sacrificed her desires Stuffed away her libido along with her lingerie deep inside her closet Blew up from time to time, screaming she’d had enough […]

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Hold it Dear, Not Tight

There’s a difference between holding something dear and holding something tight.   One is born out of love, the other out of fear.   One anchored in trust, the other in worry.   One is a symbol of your sense of worthiness, the other a symptom of your lack thereof.   And let me just […]

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Paying Attention to the Problem vs. Feeding It

It’s one thing to notice a problem, it’s another thing entirely to indulge in it.   Recent world events have had me questioning what it means to acknowledge that something is awry and that measures need to be taken, without expanding the size of the problem.   And this is just as relevant in relationships. […]

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Who Should Pay on the First Few Dates?

The other day I was on a call with a client who was describing how the guy she was seeing asked if they could just be friends.   Her belief is that she got awkward at some point on the date. Her vibe changed, and his followed. This, she says, is her pattern.   So […]

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Embodying Confidence & Your Most Empowered Self in Love

Truth be told, I’ve been “sitting” on my word of the year. I first thought it was “expand”, and then “cracked open”. I went through several iterations, only to have it hit so clearly on my walk today.   My 2020 word is EMBODY.   One small word, one big meaning.   To embody means […]

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How to Deal with Living Alone or in Company During Triggering Times

Whether you live alone, with your partner or in a house full of little ones, these can be triggering times. And taking care of your emotional landscape is imperative.   Yesterday was our first official day working from home (COVID-19) with our toddler. Living in a moderately sized home #cityliving, with a single toddler (no […]

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