Why I Don’t Believe in Red Flags

I’m much more of a find-the-solution type of woman. 

And red flags? 

They have you looking for problems.  

So rather than looking for red flags, know what you’re looking for in a partner and notice (rather than look for) which of those “requirements” are there. 

And when you see that some are missing, get honest with yourself about why they’re important and how you want to proceed. 

You might be thinking as a Love Coach that I would insist that if he doesn’t check off every one of your boxes that you need to move on - but that’s just simply not the case. 

• If you’re not being guided through this process most of your requirements are likely coming from your “ego” and may need to go all together.

• Very few things in life are black and white. Create a very short list of non-negotiables to help simplify this process for you.

• People can evolve, but you have to be willing to accept them as they are - because he might not change.

• You’re not perfect yourself, and some leniency may just be your growing edge.

• As long as you’re consciously moving forward with something, aware of how this isn't exactly aligned with what you set out for yourself, but you’re curious and open - I’m game.

 The only red flags you actually want to be aware of, are your own. 

Are you obsessively checking your phone? Creeping way too deep into his FB profile? Spending 30 minutes plus crafting every message you send him? 

RED FLAGS, honey!!  

When you find yourself engaging in ways that you know aren’t helpful, ask yourself, what am I afraid of? Is this behaviour helpful? Is this aligned with my most Empowered self? What boundary do I need to put in place so I can show up feeling more confident? 

People are not inherently evil, and you do not need to jump to judgment. You do however want to make choices that align with your vision - of who you want to be with, and who you want to be. 

With love,

Diana