The Single Most Important Quality In A Partner Is Their Growth Mindset

The Single Most Important Quality In A Partner Is Their Growth Mindset

This is hands down the most important quality to look for in a partner – with it, you can get through anything. Without it, you’ll be frustrated, kept from your greatness and at the risk of sounding overly dramatic (admittedly not the first time in my life), you risk living a very forgettable life.

When you stop growing, you stop living to your fullest potential.

If you reflect on your past relationships and why they ended, you are likely to find at the core of your issues an unwillingness to grow on either of your parts.

It’s only natural for us to grow, expand and evolve – such is the rhythm of the Universe. That’s why it feels so uncomfortable when you or the people you share your life with stop growing – it is unnatural.

Circling back to this idea of getting through anything with your mutual growth mindsets (if you’re into my work, it’s safe to assume you have one :)), “getting through” doesn’t always mean staying together; sometimes it means recognizing you’ve reached your plateau of growth together and exploring conscious uncoupling instead, ie. moving on from your relationship.

So how do you know if you’re with someone with a growth mindset? Here are a few key indicators:

  1. They’re willing to have uncomfortable conversations – little caveat here: a mindful conversation considering timing, tone of voice and intentions will serve you well.

  2. They like to try new things.

  3. They’re into personal development or at least a little curious about what you’re learning in your own personal development.

  4. They think outside the box.

  5. They have goals and life visions.

  6. They’re open-minded and willing to consider a different perspective.

  7. They’re curious about people and life.

  8. They like to learn about new things!

  9. They’re willing to consider the possibility that they’re not right.

  10. They focus more on what they can do rather than what they can’t.

Now before you take this list and hold it up in comparison to your new beau, examine your own areas of potential inside of this list.

Do you often see yourself as right? Do you judge others for not “growing” as much as you are? Do you often sit on a spiritual high horse?

If you can answer yes to any of these questions in the slightest way, you’ve got your own growing to do, girl.

You can’t force growth on someone, in fact the more you do this, the more they resist – and you inevitably play a part in stunting their growth.

What you can do is pursue your own growth and possibly inspire him to pursue his. Trust me, when he sees all the ways you rise he’s either going to move on up with you or no longer be part of the picture.

Peace & love,


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