You’re talking to a guy you care about, but you just don’t seem to be connecting. You actually feel like you’re hitting a wall that you just can’t seem yo climb over or break through. Because of that, you start thinking to yourself, “How can he not see how amazing and valuable I am? Doesn’t he know how lucky he is to have me?”
How many times have you been in this situation? Probably more times than you like to even think about. And, to be honest, I’ve been there too. Trust me when I say that I know how much it sucks!
But here’s the kicker.
You can’t expect someone to show you your own greatness. You have to show up knowing your own value and your own worth! You need to be the one giving him the opportunity to celebrate your amazingness with you, not asking him to see it. If you can’t see your worth, how can you expect him to see it?
And while this may be a hard pill to swallow, you need to realize that:
It’s not fair to expect someone to recognize your worth when you’re not recognizing it yourself.
And you know you’re not recognizing it when you’re practically begging someone to see it, which is exactly why you feel like you’re hitting a wall!
Whenever you find yourself in that position, baffled and wondering why he can’t see what’s right in front of him, you need to take a step back and realize that his lack of appreciation for you is a reflection of your lack of appreciation for yourself. It’s really that simple.
Ask yourself, “What am I tolerating? How am I not showing up for myself? What would I tell my best friend if this was happening to her? What can I do to start appreciating myself?”
And then comes your journey of self-appreciation! This is the way to make your man, or anyone else, truly recognize the value in you. YOU need to be willing to see it first. Your intimate relationships always serve as a reflection of how you see yourself, not the other way around.
Start by vowing that you will never again wait for someone else to value you so that you can feel valued. As soon as you see this creep up, you need to take that as a sign that more self-appreciation is needed.
And while there are countless ways you can cultivate this, I’m going to leave you with one:
Stop criticizing yourself and start validating yourself. You’re here to learn, share, give and experience…not to hide away. You are valuable because you exist. Your self-worth is always there, waiting for you to claim it.
Claim it, live it, radiate it, and watch it be reflected back to you from your love and everyone else.
Peace, love and knowing your worth,